Sunday 3 June 2007

Looks vs personality - ideal

Pseudoscience of love - Looks vs personality (ideal)Back to the personality vs looks issue again! This graph shows the 4 possible extremes and where the ideal person for most people is most likely to fall. Of course, everyone is different and some may think that an extreme is perfect for them. There is, after all, no accounting for taste! The four extremes are:
  • A: Great looking with no personality. Well discussed here already. Probably bad in bed and most likely to be a narcissist. Best left to the trophy wife seekers and one night stand brigade. Besides, you'd always worry someone else was hitting on him/her!
  • B: Great looking with a fabulous personality. The perfect man/woman. Lives in Shangri-La, counts Santa Claus as a close friend and keeps the abominable snowman as a pet!
  • C: Ugly both on both the inside and outside. If there's one thing worse than a good looking person who fancies him/herself, it's an ugly person who does likewise! No redeeming features whatsoever.
  • D: Great personality, but unfortunately given a few too many wallops with the ugly stick. You would love to fancy this person, but you can't, no matter how hard you try. Check for siblings though!
As I've already said at length, personality is more important in the long run for a successful relationship. At the same time however, you have to be attracted to the person. However, this does not mean that they have to be a model. Often, you find that a person who is about average in looks alone can often become very attractive to you by virtue of a great personality.

Therefore, I reckon that the ideal person is someone with slightly better than average looks and a good personality. The good news is that since you're pretty near the median on both counts, there are loads of such people around. The bad news is that there are equal numbers of people with slightly below average looks and a fairly crappy personality (and so on) also!

1 comment:

Aidan said...

Shangri-La is a fictional idyllic location from the 1933 novel 'Lost Horizon' by James Hilton. It has since become associated with any earthly paradise or Utopia (and a hotel chain!).

Santa Clause is the fat bearded guy who is very busy every Christmas delivering gifts to children all over the world!

The abominable snowman, or Yeti, is the Himalayan 'Bigfoot' - a mythical apeman rumoured to roam the remote forests and mountains of Nepal, Bhutan and Tibet.