Monday 4 June 2007

Why men enter relationships

Pseudoscience of love - Why men enter relationshipsWhy do we men enter serious, long term relationships if we are so reputedly afraid of commitment? Well, for a start, it would be nice to have someone to your washing, cooking and cleaning etc! This is the mothering aspect mentioned in the ideal woman post. Companionship is a motivation for some guys. No one wants to grow old alone after all and it would be much more pleasant if you had someone to order around (only joking, ladies! Besides, it is much more likely to be the other way around these days!).

Kids are another factor. Although a lot of guys might not be too pushed about the idea and only have them because the woman wants them or it's the thing to do, there are a sizable number of blokes who have a strong desire to produce some progeny. A small minority of guys might settle down in the first place, because it's the thing to do. Society, after all, tends to discriminate against the singleton in a lot of situations. This is obviously not a good reason to enter into a relationship and is the type of union most likely to fail somewhere down the pipe.

However, the biggest reason why men enter relationships is "sex on tap". As discussed many times on this blog, men are programmed to go forth and procreate. Most of our energies are focused on it and most of our anxiety comes from not getting it! Therefore, why not get into a situation where you can have it regularly with someone you like? Of course, relationship dynamics change all the time. When the tap is turned off, that's when the big problems start for a guy!

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