Who said men were afraid of com.., commit..., commitm...., commitment?! There, I've said it! Of all the things about men that annoy women, his reluctance to pledge his live, his soul, his heart and his wallet to her for eternity (or longer) rankles the most!
Of course, the obvious reasons are the loss of freedom and space. Gone will be the days of doing what you want, when you want and how you want. Unless you want the cold war to re-ignite, all decisions will now have to be vetted through HQ before embarked upon! Remember that room you had earmarked for pool/snooker/fuzzball/darts? Forget it, my son - it's now a guest bedroom with lovely pink drapes and flowery linen!
Men are constantly on the lookout for chicks. It's part of that genetic drive we have, I'm afraid. The thought of having a 'ball and chain' when there is so much variety out there is obviously a concern. Us guys are not (totally) emotionless either - some may have been burnt before and reluctant to knock down the protective psychological wall.
As already admitted, men tend to be more immature these days. The thought of having to give up the carefree lifestyle of video games, drinking with the lads etc. and grow up is quite daunting for some men. The grown up world of responsibility - mortgages, people carrier loans, screaming children etc. doesn't sound quite as much fun somehow!
Thursday 7 June 2007
Why men are afraid of commitment
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"Ball and chain" is a common (negative) reference to a wife!
What makes a man go from let just be friends after we had a more than friends time together, to lets move to the next level of relationship together. how does a man lose the fear? i Really need to know i like this guy!!!
Now there's a $64,000 question! For a guy to trot out the "let's be friends" line after some hanky panky has occured, it usually is not good (for the woman), I'm afraid.
Without knowing the full facts of the case, such as who made the move on whom, whether there was alcohol involved or not, have you just metor how long you've known each other etc., I can only comment in very general terms.
If he is over 30, it usually means that he has a girlfriend/wife already or is very set in his ways. If is is a young man, it probably means he is is at the stage in his life where he wants to play the field and/or doesn't want to be "tied down" (metaphorically, not literally!). Either way, he was only after one thing. Otherwise, why wouldn't he want to continue seeing a woman that he obviously clicked with?
Men can categorise women in three broad groupings: women you'd never tackle; women you would, but just for the night and women who you'd like to tackle on a long term basis! Trying to go from group 2 to group 3 is fraught with danger and any obvious tactics (e.g. telling him how you feel!) are likely to be counterproductive and scare him away. Instead, I recommend using your feminine cunning and get him to realise himself that you are the woman for him, without you actually telling him.
I'd love to tell you more about this, but I'm a mere man and therfore not cunning enough to understand! There are a myriad of subtle tricks you can use to win him around. I advise a brainstorming session with your girlfriends or watch a few suitable romantic comedies!
I hope it works out for you!
You're full of it. Men aren't afraid of committment. Men commit to, buy engagement rings for, and marry the women they love everyday. The operative phrase: WOMEN THEY LOVE. If a guy isn't committing to a woman or is weird about it it's because he's just not that into her for whatever reason. I also know that some men will keep a girl around for convenience sake while he's looking for his soulmate.
No commitment = no love
And no woman should commit to a man until that time he is truly committed to her with a ring and a date. Everything else is just talk.
Thanks for your comment and Happy Christmas to you too!
I think you're taking the post a tad too seriously! This blog takes a playful look at stereotypes, of which this is one. Of course men commit or no one would be getting married!
Someone at some point has to make the leap of faith and commit. Your suggestion would lead to a Mexican standoff where no party commits until the other does. A man is unlikely to propose unless he thinks she is committed!
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