While Internet dating can be like buying a pig in a poke, no such problem exists in the much shallower arena that is the pub/club. Here looks are paramount and personality a bonus. Who cares if she hasn't got two words to say for herself, if she's pretty and has great boobs! And I'm sure that handsome devil hasn't delivered those well polished lines before either. In this environment, no one flourishes except the shallow, the vain, the arrogant and possibly the mildly drunk. If you fit this description, you know where you should head to meet people.
How many "nice" guys have left the club empty handed, ruing their luck while the obvious asswipe saunters by with yet another woman in tow? How many women head home wondering why they can't meet a nice guy out for a change? Well it's pretty simple really; the nice guy is the wallflower who has been eyeing you up all night from across the room, trying to work up the courage to make a move. Ultimately, he will chicken out, usually with some lame excuse to mask his fear of rejection. If he consumes enough alcohol, Dutch courage may finally propel him across the room (albeit in a zigzag fashion), but by then he will usually be too incoherent to mount any sort of a successful campaign. Besides drunk guys, the other main bunch of guys that would typically approach a woman is the arrogant, full of themselves type. These guys love themselves and think you should too. These are the type of guys most likely to cheat on you if you are foolish enough to entertain them in the longer term.
In the pub/club, you could be the nicest guy that ever lived, but if you're not making any moves, you're going to be unsuccessful 99% of the time. Occasionally, a woman may hit on you or even you will fall into a situation conducive for romance, despite yourself. Generally speaking though, the club is not really for you. You could be the nicest gal that ever lived too, but unless you're dressed like a hooker or look like a model, you're not going to get much attention from sober individuals. And no woman is going to get much attention from decent, sober guys in a club environment!
From a dating point of view, I think it's best to leave the clubs to the arrogant and/or drunk guys and the vain and/or boring Barbie dolls. They probably deserve each other anyway!
Friday 20 April 2007
Traditional Pub/Club Dating
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2 comments:
Oh, for goodness sake - there's no mystery to talking to a girl in a bar or club. Just go up and introduce yourself, say soemthing nice and get chatting - like in any other situation in life. It's tiring only talking to guys who are so drunk (dutch courage) you can't make out a word they are saying or tell what their personality actually is.
Thanks for the comment, Niamh, but that's easy for you to say! Have you ever gone over to a guy? It really isn't easy (while sober at any rate).
Some guys would probably prefer to face a firing squad than the lonely walk over to a gal (while sober) in a bar/club! Especially since many women are on the defensive, probably because they have been fending off pillocks all night!
It's a jungle out there!
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